I loved you before I met you

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Love is a gift that we all deserve. Love is the energy that makes our soul. GOD is love and we are all the children of GOD. Love is natural but sometimes our experiences keep this love away from us experiencing it to the fullest. We all search for it but are we ready for it?

I have been blessed with the relationships in my life. I always had standards of relationships in which the heart was number one. If someone did not have at least a certain level of love in their heart, I did not pursue that person. It is hard to have a bad relationship if two people are full of love. The problems in relationships start when people do not act from their heart and make bad choices from emotions and lack of communication. I can honestly say that 99% of all of my relationships were full of love and happiness.

Each relationship taught me lessons about myself and life. I learned how to be a great partner and to communicate. I learned how to be patient with a loving energy and to see the goal of the relationship and not my selfish ways. I learned what it takes to have a partner and to think of “us” instead of just me. All of these relationships taught me to be who I am today and I thank every soul who was in my life. People are in your life for seasons, reasons and lifetimes. When the message and lesson is delivered, it then is time for the next chapter to begin. Sometimes it ends with love and sometimes just the opposite. Either way, the focus should always be “what did I learn from this relationship” and not how it ended. Focus on the gifts and miracles of that time.

I have been focusing on “me” for awhile now. Focusing on being the best version of myself so I can bring that energy to the relationship. I wanted to be at my peak so my partner would be at hers because you attract what you are. I wanted us both be at our best so we can help each other go even further. Besides the relationship qualities, I wanted to be physically and spiritually at my best. I want my partner to desire my body and soul and I want to crave her body and soul. I want the relationship to start from this point so we both can grow together while having the best partner and best friend for each other. No worries, no fears, no negativity, just all love, happiness and miracles.

On February 7th, I saw my soulmate. We have many soul mates in our lives, all of them teaching us lessons. This is my soulmate that I will create a family and lifetime with. When I saw her photo, I knew who she was to me. After a month talking, I was even more sure of her energy. I was so excited to meet her and the excitement was driving me crazy! I didn’t want to just bring flowers that would eventually wither, instead I brought her a beautiful orchid plant that was filled with blooms inside an awesome vase. After an awesome lunch filled with laughs, we had to part ways but my confirmation was set. I knew this was going to be the mother of my children and my best friend for life.

I missed her as soon as I left. I had to leave town for a couple days but wanted to see her when I got back. I was persistant for us to meet and would not take no for an answer and she left a bridal shower to see me. I convinced her to meet 2 days after we first met just for a talk on the beach during the full moon. Our first kiss happened under the moonlight and that lasted for 3 hours straight and I still craved more. Our souls danced that night to the song of love that we both always wanted to hear and feel. That kiss started the connection that has skyrocketed to the heavens.

I have never felt so much love in my life. My soul is only filled with miracles and love. There is no room for anything else because this is what drives me. This is what gets me closer to GOD and my angels. This is what makes me be at the best version of myself. Mi amor has shown me so many sides of my soul that I did not know existed. She showed me so many levels and depths that have evolved my soul even more and we are only just starting.

Mac and Diana, who are very close to my soul, just recently celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary. While I did not wait for the “standard” of time to ask mi amor to marry me, I could not wait anymore. This couple said that time does not wait for man so why should man wait for time. If you know she is the one then what are you waiting for? Why are you waiting to give negativity a chance to break the bond you know you have? Life is to short not to go after what you want and feel. When you feel it in your soul, then go for it and love every inch of effort for it.

Iris means rainbow. The symbol for all colors. The light of all life. Her birthday is July 28th and I wanted to do something special so I planned a photo shoot on the beach during sunset. But this was not just any photo shoot but one then we would remember for the rest of our lives. The time in which I would ask my soulmate to be with me forever and to start a beautiful loving family.

I wanted this day to be as special as possible so I had 3 dozen roses and mixed bouquets waiting for my love when she arrived. We had lunch with the photographer to set up all of our thoughts and ideas. A pedicure and manicure followed so my babes hands and feet would feel awesome. Lots of laughs during this time and the pineapple martinis with our pinkies up made it even better. After getting ready at our house, we were ready for the special miracle moment of our lives.

We had two parts of the photo shoot, one in casual linen and the other a bathing suit. We had a loving date on the beach while walking, talking, kissing, holding, hugging and bonding all while someone captured these moments on film. I bought a special white dove/pigeon/parrot for us to release. The photographer and I had this planned for a month before the photo shoot of how it was going to happen. Before we released the bird, he would say that he wanted a couple more poses before we do that. One of those was me kneeling, like a proposal type photo. When he mentioned this, lol, Iris said “what? What do you mean?”. He said “You guys will eventually be married right? This is just practice”. After a few funny faces and comments  in this pose just to lighten and disguise the moment, I spoke to Iris with my soul. She already knows how I feel but I let my soul speak loving vibrations that surrounded her entire body.

When she said yes, I felt such a miraculous sensation as if angels were dancing and celebrating around us. A new chapter had begun. I felt like my life had just started. All the training and experiences in my life has paid off because now I am starting a new life and one with my best friend and life partner, my soulmate, my love. We celebrated with some bubbly and enjoyed our moment in bliss. We stayed up all night enjoying each others energy and the next day and night as well. We are so happy within each others energy that we did not want to separate. I have never experienced a bond this strong and I am so appreciative for every moment, kiss, hug and breath that I feel from Iris, my rainbow of love that spreads from one side of my soul to the next.

I reached this point in my life from finding myself. I learned how to be a respectful humble man and a proud loving son of GOD at the same time. I learned when I look to be the best version of myself that I will be given opportunities to learn from my experiences to get me there. I learned how to love myself first so I can share that with everyone around me. I learned me and I will always be learning and loving from my wife. She is my teacher and my best friend. She is me and I am her and we are one. Love you mi amor!! I look forward to every chapter while we hold hands and walk along side each other!! ❤

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My 15th Anniversary of Teaching Life


This month marks my 15th year of teaching tai chi & qi gong, both are slow dances combined with soft breathing. I first started tai chi by accident. I was on a waiting list to join a private class and one of my friends who had my house keys was at class. I had to sneak up to the yard because I did not want to disturb the class and also not look like a stalker.

My friend and I caught each others eye and he quickly throw me my keys over the fence. As I was walking away the teacher came out and asked what I was doing there. After explaining, he offered for me to try class. That was the start of my destiny as I know it today. GOD, my angels, however it works, they lead me to that moment in time for which forever changed my life as I know it and I hold constant gratitude and appreciation in my heart and prayers for it.

I was so excited to be doing this since the back ground was martial arts and I have studied many systems. This particular style had self defense aspects but also a focus on breath and meditation in motion. I feel in love with how I felt and soon started volunteering my time teaching others. I knew the changes I felt by simply taking 10 minutes a day and focusing on myself and my breath while practicing a dance. I never stopped volunteering my time and teaching since. I was given opportunities to help and I accepted with an open heart. I volunteered teaching everyone from children with HIV to juvenile delinquents who had to come to school in handcuffs. I also had the honor to teach adults with HIV and the homeless amongst many other different classifications of society. Still continuing my path, I now have the honor to work with the military and others who look to make a difference in this world. I have seen so many miracles during these times simply with breath and movement.

There are two things that I am confident about in my life, my heart and my movements. While at the beach today doing the movements, I reflected on the last 15 years and what it has done for me physically and spiritually. It takes me just over an hour to do the movements from start to finish, so I had many memories of who I was and who I am today. I started as a boy from the projects and grew into a soulful man trying to help the world, one breath at a time. I had to walk each step with faith.

Physically, the daily practice of meditation in motion has kept me clear and focused. It has allowed me not only to get rid of stress but to have the strength to prevent it. These simple movements have given my body the oxygen it needs in order to heal at an optimum state of being. By controlling my breath, I control my body in which I control my mind. When we control our body we get in touch with every part of our being. I have found myself through my breath. I have found a tool to keep my health at its peak without ever loosing the most important thing we take for granted, our breath. I always have peace and relaxation in my body.

Spiritually, I have come to feel GOD and my angels which is the core of us all. These movements do not follow religious beliefs or any man made path. Instead it allowed me, someone who was soul searching, to open up and look within myself. It allowed me to find my own way to our higher power, the way that fits me the best. Once I open up my soul and eyes to see, it allowed me to see thousands of miracles since, literally. It allowed me to find that peaceful, happy, serene, loving side of myself and to keep me in that energy and state of mind at all times.

I had many teachers in my life since then and have many now. My family are my teachers. My best friend is my teacher. My soulmate is my teacher. The homeless guy at the corner is my teacher. No human has ever perfected life. A teacher should always have teachers otherwise they are not learning but only dictating what they know so far and knowledge in unlimited.

Everything in life is connected and when you connect yourself, you find your true self and destiny. The last few years was the most intense training for my soul and life as I know it. When you are a child, you do not have many choices. As an adult, you have every choice. The last few years opened so many doors that enabled me to grow into a man. In one of the worst cross roads of life so far, I found the biggest gift, life. By helping others, it allowed me to record the gifts of breath. This is when I recorded 5 documentaries concerning Cancer, Parkinson’s Disease, Stroke, etc. From that experience, I created 2 tai chi systems just focusing on health and a foundation to help spread that insight. These are the miracles and experiences that turned me into a man, a teacher and one day a loving father and husband. It was doing the right things in life without negativity for me to see the true blessing surrounding me. Any soul learning the movements from me call me by my name and not a title. We are all the same and no man is higher then another. Some just make different choices in life.

I owe everything to GOD and to the angels he sent to help me along my journey. The best insight that I found during the last 15 years is that I am just starting. My path has just begun. My training for life so far has given me the tools to stand as a loving child of GOD and to have the knowledge to help anyone in any health condition. I was given the tool to make a difference and I will teach others to carry and share these tools. The insights were not given to any man to hold for himself but to share with the world.

At the end of every exhale is the start of life, a new beginning. A new breath to fulfill your destined path. Find yourself. Find your breath. Find your destiny. ~David Chi


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35 years of Blessings and Miracles


First I want to give THANKS to GOD and the Angels for allowing me to reach 35 years in life. So many souls do not make it whether by choice or by events that cause their existence to be cut short. I am very grateful for each breath I take.

Every birthday that comes around I try to feel out what that the events and time are going to be like. I envision my happiness and try to see an order of events that would make my energy happy. I originally had planned to go to key west for the weekend just to relax and be around family and friends. To be around the people I love for my birthday is what makes my soul happy. This and the beach is perfect in my eyes.

After trying to organize a few things, everyone could not be at this place. Instead of getting upset of my own expectations, I choose to take my birthday to where it really matters, my heart. I decided to take the love of my life and spend time with my best friend, his wife and their two awesome children in St Petersburg. My best friend opened his house and energy to us and helped make my birthday such a memorable experience for my soul.

Heading over to St. Petersburg we had plans to go on a sunset cruise, the famous beaches, fishing, Dali museum, dinners, parks, bbq and everything in between. This was also the first time my soulmate was meeting my best friend and his family. I knew everything would work out with their energies getting along but did not expect all the miracles that would follow. I was truly blown away from the love that was felt and shared over the weekend!

Once we arrived we never left. The woman went on the balcony and shared their energy while my best friend and I caught up. We watched two women who never met come together at first for their men but then connected in such a soulful way like they have known each other for years. We sat back and enjoyed a glass of wine while looking at our beautiful woman while the sun was setting. We had the kids playing along the side of us and we both counted our blessings of how truly lucky our souls were to be in that moment of time.

The entire weekend was such a blessing. We had such a great soulful time that we never left the house. Our energies together whether we talked, played games, prayed, ate, hugged the kids, hugged each other, everything felt as perfect as it sounds. We did not need to go anywhere to give us the joyous feelings. We did not need anything to make us see how blessed we were. Every meal we all held hands in a circle and prayed to GOD. We THANKED him and all the angels around us for allowing us to come together and experience the love that we were all feeling. You can not find this love at the museum or a park but within your soul.

The children calling us Uncle Fam and Auntie Iris touched our hearts. Our best friends telling us how much they love and appreciate us touched our souls. These are the bonds that are never forgotten. This weekend was also the first time my soulmate and I first told each other that we loved each other. We were both waiting for the right moment to say it even though we have felt it since the beginning. That moment came to us and that moment will never be forgotten.

As we said our goodbyes, Madison, the baby girl who is such a bright light started crying. After her daddy confirmed that we were not saying goodbye, that we were saying see you soon, made the sadness turn into happiness. We felt honored to touch a soul with love to cause that bond.

My love and I reflected on the weekend and we had smiles the entire way home. We held hands and our bond grew even more. Our love for each other is so strong even though the “time” is fairly new but the connection has always been there. We had to both go through tough life experiences in order to be ready for each other. We had to learn how to appreciate each other before we finally met so we both can have that best friend soulful love connection that could be cherished and maintained throughout our life together. I am confident because I know who she is to me. I have been telling her since the beginning and every moment we are together reaffirms my words. I am truly blessed and honored to have this beautiful soul in my life!! WOW…. all this and my birthday is not even here yet. My birthday is the following day and I already felt the best gifts that I ever could have imagined.

June 10th is here and my love had a whole day planned for me that I never imagined. After an awesome breakfast with my father and my love, she took me to a famous winery for a wine tasting. We talked with ease like we have been married for 20 years. To have peace and comfortableness in a bond is a gift and blessing. Amongst all the other gifts she still had one more. My baby took me on a romantic airplane ride along the east coast to West Palm Beach. We held hands and flew through the air like we were angels gliding over the ocean. We prayed and gave THANKS for the moment and all the moments leading up to us being together. A small part of me wanted to keep flying because it was such a perfect moment but the bigger angelic part said then you will be missing out on all the bigger blessings in life. Enjoy, keep the memory in your heart and look forward to all the other blessings that are already laid out for you both.

We ended the night with some champagne, reflection and huge signs from our angels which was the spiritual birthday gift given to both of us on a silver platter.

The vibrations that my soul and energy has felt over the last 4 days have been nothing short of divinely angelic love. My soul is in heaven as my body feels the connection here. The best part is that I know this is just the beginning of my life but as much as I look forward to it, I am here now. I appreciate each breath and moment right now. I hug, I kiss, I say I LOVE YOU, I share, I create. I am me and in me is the love and light that we all share. I am in tune with this light and love and it gets stronger daily.

We all have to go through life training. We will always learn through our experiences and life events. It is up to you whether you look at life as poor me or as the stronger soul who learned what to do and what not to do. It is up to you whether you hate from your experiences or love and appreciate your todays. My birthday cake says Happy Birthday Everyone. Today is everyones day not just mine. Today is the day I celebrate everyone in my life. THANK YOU GOD, THANK YOU ANGELS, THANK YOU to all the beautiful souls that surround my existence. Namaste.

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Destiny changes every second



GOD sent the Angels here to help everyone one of us. We all have at least 7 guardian Angels, each one being in charge of a chapter in your life. They are helping you achieve your destined path in life whatever that may be. Some people need “bad” experiences in order to reach their destiny while others may be blessed with a great life and still achieve their destiny. We go through our own experiences to make us who we are today but the path of destiny that is given is always altered some how some way. This is from free choice and will of man, our greatest gift. Just because we are destined to achieve certain experiences and gifts in our life does not mean it is guaranteed.

If I am destined to be president of the USA but I choose to drink and drive and hurt someone else, then I have altered destiny. Sometimes our mistakes are forgiven depending on the level of our destined path and sometimes not. There are jails full of murders who have ruined their lives from a choice. They not only ruined their destiny but also the soul who they took the life from.

Another example of destiny being altered is in love. I believe we have many soul mates in our lifetime depending on the lessons that our souls need to experience. Sometimes we feel that someone is our soul mate and maybe they are but it takes two to make it work. If the other person chooses a different path then you even though you are soul mates, destiny is altered once again by a choice. Furthermore, if you are married to your soul mate and life is wonderful but then something tragic happens, destiny is altered. We all have heard stories about spouses loosing another from the war.

This is where the angels really come into play with our lives. They are here to help us achieve our destined path and that means adapting to the changes made by our choices whether good, bad or indifferent. One of the greatest gifts the angels help us with is timing, also known as Divine timing. When our destiny is altered, they do their best to help guide our timing to realign our destiny. It is almost like an alignment on our car. If it is not fixed then you will be buying tires really soon or have to deal with flats and time delays from that. They help fix the car so we can drive as smoothly as possible even though we could hit a pothole at any time or be forced into one by another driver.

Regardless of what happens in our lives, have faith that GOD has the best workers for your soul trying to make your destined path happen. Have faith and gratitude in GOD for giving us our angels and giving us his unconditional love. GOD loves every soul he made. He may be disappointed in our choices sometimes because we know better but that will never affect his love and dedication to us. GOD is the best parent we all share and will always try to love us to our destiny, we just have to have faith in ourselves and his guidance.

I have made mistakes in my life and altered my destiny many times by simple choices. But I have learned from my mistakes so I will not alter it any more. We all make mistakes but it is the wise soul who learns from the experience. I am a student of life and will always be learning lessons to make my soul the best version it can be. There is no one in history who has ever perfected life. All we can do is act from our heart, speak with love and share what we have with the ones who need it the most. When in doubt, ask yourself how GOD and the angels would respond. Every right answer has that energy in it.



Jackie Robinson #42


I just saw the movie “42” about Jackie Robinson and how he was the first afro-american to join major league baseball as we know it today. The story was filled with many emotions. Watching a dedicated soul overcome all the challenges he faced stirred some frustrating emotions. I could feel the prejudice and hatred at that time. I guess we can time travel. But I traveled to an outside place looking in. To see an energy of one soul lash out and attack just because of skin color is watching negativity work its magic.

Growing up in the projects of Philadelphia, it was hard for me to be prejudice. The majority of my friends were afro-american. How could I dislike someone strictly for the color of the skin? I related with racism at an early age. Coming from the projects, there are many stereotypes but I always chose not to have any negativity towards a race or culture. This movie made me feel the true evil within racism. To feel this emotion made me feel angry and frustrated but that is where it comes from so I had to recognize that. You can not fall in the same trap that feeds negativity. If you allow it to effect you emotionally then you are allowing it to win.

I can never feel what it is like to be afro-american especially in those days. I can only see the negativity and focus my energy to work in the opposite direction. I can only shift my love to places where education and truth will always win over hatred. There will always be prejudice and racism in this world. But look how far we have become as a nation and a world. It was not that long ago since slavery and less then 50 years that afro-americans had to use seperate bathrooms and water fountains amongst many other rules that were supported by the government.

Segregation is only for people who truly do not know GOD. They only know their negative experiences. The way they chose to believe has now warped there loving and logical thought process. If we were all blind how could we have hatred for a skin color. We would be forced then to judge by actions. Having hatred on something you can not see or know represents that negative space within their soul. It is easy to fill your heart and soul with stereo types and negativity. It takes courage, love and GOD to know and follow the truth. When you truly know your GOD, no matter what name you call him, you will see the universal energy we all share, love.

Everyone is an individual. Only GOD judges. The true work of GOD is to love everyone regardless of color, faith and action. To see the light of GOD in every soul is acting in GOD’s love. If you had children, you would not want them to hate each other but only to love and help one another. That is GOD’s message also. The true foundation of any religion is love because GOD is LOVE.

We have come a long way in racism. In the 1940’s, no one would ever believe there would be an afro-american president today. Society is changing because the era is changing. All the people living today that are older then 55 have experienced some type prejudice on a larger scale. Some of this population have the core foundation of hatred that they experienced. Some of these souls are in government and elevated positions. As time goes on, these souls will leave and new souls will evolve to these positions constantly changing our world for the better with more love and acceptance.

Today we see gay marriage and more interracial children. Love is being accepted on a wider scale and in that love comes change. We can all help the change by raising our children with the love value and not the hatred. We can help change to speak up when someone says something racial. Have courage for GOD’s children. GOD sent the angels here to help us to our destined paths in life. We can help that process by sharing and caring unconditionally.

I love all faiths, cultures, races and life itself. Speak love with every word. Look at every soul and not their shell. Love the energy of another regardless of their deeds. The easiest way to get to this wonderful place is to love yourself and GOD. The more you love the more you will see. The more you will feel whats right in your heart.






2 faiths, 1 direction


This past weekend I experienced two forms of faith concerning the transition to Heaven. I attended a Jewish and Christian funeral that were both held on Friday. Both faiths had a different approach in reaching GOD’s light. Each one gave ultimate respect, honor and love. They also have uniques ways that deal with the grieving process.

The Jewish celebration was held in a Temple and then immediately followed by the burial service. This was a service for someone who was like a grandfather to me. I never had a chance to meet any of my grandfathers, so this awesome soul filled that void. He was 95 and 8 days shy of his 96th birthday. He just celebrated his 70th wedding anniversary and has his wife who is 93 and 4 children amongst numerous grandchildren and great grandchildren. They are all like family to me. I was happy for his gift of insight and time but my heart was still heavy.

The other service was a Christian service. My best friend’s brother went to Heaven at the age of 44. He had a wife and 4 children ranging in ages from 6 to 16. I met him a few times and could feel the love that this family had for everyone. He was an athlete growing up getting full scholarships to the top universities. His departure was unexpected and he will surely be missed. His viewing was on Friday night, following the Jewish service. The church service was on Saturday followed by the burial.

I was not prepared for all the emotions I would feel during these few days. Of course I know both these souls went to Heaven and they both are not feeling anything but GOD’s love and warmth but my heart was feeling so much emotional sadness. Not that I was sad but just wanting to cry. Crying is a powerful emotion and it is awesome to be in touch with. I do not hold back and allow what is natural to flow through me. I do not have to be tough or a warrior who blocks pain. I am a student of life who acts from his heart. If I am sad, I will let out my tears. If I am happy I will smile with love. If I get frustrated, I will do tai chi until I come back to my natural self. I am me. I am love.

In the Jewish service, it started out at the temple. The Rabbi gave a beautiful eulogy and proudly mentioned the life accomplishments he has done for the sport of fencing and the charity foundations he has started. It was a beautiful life that anyone would dream of having and he lived it all while helping others along the way. He fulfilled his destiny. A few friends and family came up and spoke some speaking for 20 minutes describing the miracles they shared with him. At the end of the service the Rabbi pulled out his iphone and played “My Way” by Frank Sinatra. The worlds fit him perfectly and everyone was in tears during the song. Most of the people there were older then 65.

I was in the last pew when they escorted the casket out to the procession. The family followed and stopped right in front of me while they were loading. I was able to hug them all and to give that feeling of love and strength to help ease some of the hurt and pain of loosing a family member.

Once we started driving, a huge storm blew in and felt like we were in a hurricane. The cemetery was 10 miles away so by the time we arrived, the sun was shining again. Ironic? 😉 Everyone lined up at the burial site and two guards of honor folded the flag and gave a full salute. As they played Taps, I thought about all those brave souls who served that never made it to 95. After a proper burial service, everyone used a shovel and placed dirt on top as the final farewell. The family is “sitting shiva”, a Jewish tradition that takes place for 3 days. This is your grieving process, a time to deal with all the hurt and emotions. A time to just be with yourself, emotions and memories all wrapped in GOD’s arms.

After I left the cemetery, I went to be with my best friend at the viewing. I did not know his brother well but I know my best friend need strength and love for loosing a brother. I lost a brother and I know the pain it brings. When a man knows another man is there just in spirit and energy, it brings a certain comfort a hug can not bring.

The viewing was at a funeral home so there was not anyone performing a religious ceremony or prayer. This viewing was for you to have time with your loved one and to be able to deal with the grief while in person and amongst friends and family. The constant traffic coming and going was immense. I was there for about an hour and had to see a couple hundred people. He had a smile on his face, literally. Either he went to Heaven with that smile or the funeral director played a part. I will stick with Heaven.

The next morning was the church service and burial. The church was not fancy and I did not feel out of place being the only caucasian. I grew up in the projects so I blend in where ever I go. I sat in the front, second pew next to my best friend, his wife and two beautiful children. I was also behind the wife and 4 children. The entire service I watched pain and hurt pour out that I wept with them. I wanted to sit with them and hug all of them but yesterday was the first time I met them. The only thing I could do was pray for them and send them loving energy to console their soul.

The casket is closed during the eulogy. Service here is wayyyyyyyy different then any other service I experienced. All is beautiful but they focused on feeling rather then prayers per se. This was a church that was loud, proud and happy to love GOD. Lots of praise the Lords and Amens. No formal prayers were said but singing with love and faith filled the church. They had a 12 year old boy playing drums to every word preached along with the songs on cds. I felt GOD in a different way. It was a feeling, a energy that was very strong and powerful to the soul. It moved you and if it didn’t, the person next to you singing and clapping would bump into you and move you.

Next they introduced a performer. I’m thinking a performer? Singer? I am confused and then I see walk up a beautiful woman dressed like an angel. They began playing this angelic song that talked about GOD giving us love and energy to make it through the tough times and how each one of us will be in his arms one day. While this played, the woman performed this beautiful dance that showcased the song. She was in essence doing tai chi to a song about GOD. It was beautiful!!

After a beautiful service I witnessed something that I personally would not want at my funeral. This is not a judgment because I have none, but just a personal preference. The casket has been closed during the entire service. The church has two sides, left and right pews. They opened the casket and places a veil over the front half. After turning it to the right side first, away from the family, that side, one by one came to visit one more time. As everyone walked past, they would walk by the wife and children giving condolences once again.

It came to our side and started from back to front. Being in the second pew I was feeling really nervous. I had to get up and face this emotional feeling again. I felt my eyes watering up just looking at the children. I thought if I released a few tears then I would be ok by the time I had to stand. Boy was I wrong.

Quickly wiping the love juice from my cheek I stood behind my best friend with my hand on his shoulder while he stared at his brother for the last time. Trying to be strong I pinched my leg to hold back the feeling and emotion. As soon as I turned away I was in a connection with the family that is hard to describe. No longer was I the only white guy standing in front of a church but I was a loving soul able to share love and light when it matters the most. I gave super strong tight hugs to the wife and each child. My hugs were long, probably a little too long but I made sure that even though they did not know me, it did not matter. I made sure they felt another child of GOD giving them love because they are also a child of GOD who was hurting.

After service I helped lift the casket into the hearse. Driving to the burial site was over 15 miles away and yes another storm during the ride only to open up at the site allowing the sun to shine. I was a little taken back by the service at the site. The funeral director who was at the church said a few words then handed out some roses to the woman. This service lasted 10 minutes max. She then said say your farewells and please go to your cars because there is another service that is coming. Ironically or ill managed, there was another funeral that was 20 feet away from this site. To tell someone to hurry after they buried someone is not the best decision in the situation but I did not hold judgment or say anything. Just noted in my brain to make sure at my funeral.

My experiences combined with the emotions taught me very valuable insights. I loved “feeling” GOD in the singing way even though my cat runs in the other room when I sing. GOD loves all of our voices. I loved the performance and thought of people doing tai chi at my funeral. The biggest lesson I was taught is to face your pain when someone is in need of your strength. I could have easily missed the latter funeral because of my own emotions but I love my best friend and I sucked it up so he could have an easier burden and hurt. I was strong for my brother who just lost his. I was hurt because he was hurt but I could use my energy to make him feel better just by being there. I learned to allow other roads to GOD in with open arms. Why not experience other faith and traditions?  Why not find more ways to love and worship GOD. What not include them if it makes your soul sing.

GOD loves all of his children no matter what language or religion they speak. GOD loves when his children help other children just like any parent would. GOD rewarded me with a best friend who has been my muse in so many areas. The least I could do is endure some pain and hurt so his soul could heal easier. Spread your love, your brothers and sisters are waiting 😉



Maxwell Garret- a legend and hero- 4/18/17- 4/10/13


I met Maxwell (Mac) from teaching class in one of my community centers. His loving wife Diana was a student who I immediately gravitated to. She had such warmth and loving energy that you could not help but give her a hug. Diana asked if I would come to the house to see her husband Mac because he had to use a wheel chair most of the time and was difficult to get to class. Without hesitation I accepted and went an hour before our class started the following week.

First time I saw Mac I experienced such awesome light, warmth and love. I felt this feeling of a strong leader but with a caring heart who was only trying to help guide you to your best possible self. I taught Mac the beginning movements of tai chi and also massaged his knees and shoulders, injuries from the war. Every week for over 3 years I would work on Mac and teach him tai chi but what he taught me far exceeds anything that I shared with him. During our relationship, there was never any money exchange. I did not charge them for my time instead was happy and grateful GOD placed these wonderful angels into my life.

Besides class sessions, there was more to our relationship. We would go out to eat together and even go to the Morikomi museum. Our relationship was a loving grandparent bond. I immediately felt Mac’s and Diana’s love for me and knew it was a gift to cherish and learn from.

We would always share our miracle stories and the life lessons.The insights I learned from both of them are priceless. The biggest lesson that they both taught me was love. Not just any love but true, unconditional, you are my soulmate for life type of love and what it takes to maintain it. I never saw my grandparents together. I never experienced how love is later in life. They were my perfect example and standard.
In all of our time together, I would always see kissing. Always hear words of “I love you” and “sweetie”. Always see touching of the arm or a quick hug. Being married for 70 years and they still express their love for each other. Mac knew that strength did not come from arguing but saying “yes dear”. He was brilliant and his mind always sharp. Even at 95 he was sending me emails and using the computer everyday.
Mac would always say exactly what you needed to hear. He made you not think of the issue at hand but how it can apply to other areas of your life and what you learned from it. There are many lessons that I carry in my heart one being “If you loose, what will you gain”? To shift your perspective from negative to positive and turn the issue into a lesson is huge for the insight and soul. Mac was a coach of life. Every issue in life has a lesson and he guided you to learn how to become a better person.
I will miss Mac dearly. He was truly a grandfather to me. I thank GOD and my angels for the time that I had and all the love I received. Mac is one of my heroes, a legend in fencing, the best husband, greatest father and an angelic soul who spread love and light to anyone that came into his circle. A portion of proceeds from my teacher program will always go to the handicap scholarship foundations that Mac and Diana created at PennState and University of Illinois. In my lifetime their legacy will always be alive. Love you Mac!!

Coach of U. of Illinois (1941-72); winner of the NCAA team championship (1956, ’58). Coach of Penn State University (1972-80). One of the principal organizers of fencing in the Midwest. Co-founder of the NFCAA (1941). President of the NFCAA. Captain of CCNY (1939).

Maxwell Garret has long been recognized as one of the country’s top fencing coaches and as one of the leading internationally ranked fencing officials. Not only was it important that his teams have winning records and capture titles, but more importantly, Coach Garret insisted that his athletes achieve academically and develop the self-discipline and character that would enable them to be successful in their future endeavors.

Maxwell (Mac) R. Garret, born Max Goldstein, was the eldest of three children of Russian born parents. He lived most of his early years in Manhattan (near Harlem) and later, in East Bronx. He received his high school education at Townsend Harris High School, a preparatory school for City College of New York, at 23rd Street and Lexington Avenue. There he played baseball, soccer, basketball, and was on the varsity fencing team (Captain from 1933-1934).

Mac attended City College of New York from 1934-1939 and received a Bachelor of Science degree in Education with a major in Physical Education. At CCNY, he was a varsity fencer and was Captain of the 1938-1939 team. After graduation, his ties to Townsend Harris remained strong as evidenced by his work as volunteer fencing coach at Townsend Harris in 1939-1940. In 1939 Mac placed second in the Intercollegiate Fencing Association (IFA) Foil Championship. He was a candidate for the 1940 U.S. Olympic Foil team, however, World War II was in progress, and no Olympic competition took place.

Mac became the Fencing Coach at the University of Illinois in 1940 and continued his graduate work there from September 1940 until March 1942 when he received his Master of Science degree. Mac’s career at Illinois was interrupted by World War II.

garretphotobyolanmills1.jpgIn 1942, Mac enlisted in the U.S. Army Air Force, graduating from Officers Candidate School in 1943. He served four years in the military. As Special Service and Information and Education Officer, Mac put together a variety show that sold a million and a half dollars in war bonds. He was honorably discharged in 1946 with the rank of Captain. Continuing in the Reserves, he retired with the rank of Major.

Mac married Diana Rosen in 1943. They had four children: Roger (1944), Roberta (1945-1984), Esther (1947), and Bruce (1951). All four children graduated from the University of Illinois. Roger was on the fencing team and was selected All American in his senior year.

After the War, the University of Illinois developed a nationally recognized wheelchair sports program. Dr. Tim Nugent, founder and director of the U of I rehabilitation program, encouraged Mac to develop the first U.S. fencing program for students with disabilities. Mac coached the first U.S. wheelchair fencing team that brought home medals from the Paralympics.

During his tenure at the University of Illinois, Mac was an Associate Professor, first in the department of Physical Education and later in Recreation and Park Administration. Mac developed the Garret Total Body Reaction Timer. This device was used in the Physical Education Research Lab for training purposes.

Mac also created innovative courses for the Recreation and Parks curriculum. For 14 years (1952-1966) he operated and directed a private summer day camp, Camp Illini, for children of families in the community. The camp served as a proving ground for Recreation and Parks majors. Mac also included children with physical disabilities in the camp program and always took pride in their accomplishments.

During his 28 years as Head Fencing Coach at the University of Illinois, the Illini won 17 Big Ten Championships, 2 NCAA Championships, and was only once ranked lower than second place in the Big Ten. To recognize his inspirational coaching and leadership, the University of Illinois fencers, their families, and alumni established the Maxwell R. Garret Fencing Scholarship in 1966.

In 1969 Mac took a year’s leave of absence from the U of I to serve as the Director of the Academy for Fencing Teachers in Israel. He was also appointed as the National Coach for the State of Israel.

In 1972 Penn State University recruited Mac as Professor of Recreation and Park Administration and as Head Fencing Coach. In 1973 Mac established the Penn State Open Fencing Tournament that became one of the most prestigious collegiate fencing tournaments in the country. Mac retired from Penn State University In 1982. During his ten years at Penn State, Mac’s teams won six conference championships and placed third in the NCAA in 1978-79. In recognition of his achievements, Penn State University fencers and their families established the Garret Fencing Scholarship. In 1982, upon his retirement, the annual Penn State Open Fencing Tournament became known as the Garret Penn State Open.

Although Mac “officially” retired in 1982, his contributions to the sport never ceased. He continued to serve as an Internationally ranked fencing official and officiated frequently at major national and international tournaments as well as circuit events. After retiring from Penn State, Mac recognized the need to encourage fencers of all ages to continue with the sport for their physical and mental well-being, especially for those 40 years of age and older. He was Chairman of the USFA

Veteran Age Fencing Program from 1982 until 1997. During this time, he organized and coordinated fencing competitions for Veterans in conjunction with local, sectional, and national tournaments. The USFA Veteran Fencing Program participated in its first international tournament with Great Britain in 1993.

In 1996 the Olympic Fencing Committee put into action Mac’s original concept to utilize uniform hand signals for referees, as suggested in an article he had written forty years prior. In Atlanta, Mac worked closely with his son Roger, who was the producer for the 1996 fencing Olympics and Paralympics. Together they put in countless hours to make the fencing tournament a success.

While manager of the U.S. Veteran Age Fencing Team at the International Tournament in Siofok, Hungary in 1999, Mac met with representatives from several countries and FIE representative, Max Gueter. They met with the International Fencing Federation (FIE) requesting that the FIE sponsor “The World Veterans Championship.” This request was granted the following year. Mac wrote or co-authored a dozen books dealing with fencing, boating, recreation, physical education and physical fitness. As former editor of the Swordmaster magazine, he published more than 45 articles in magazines and professional journals. He served as contributing editor to the Swordmaster, American Fencing and Mentor magazines. In addition, he served as a member of the editorial board of the Physical Education magazine. His latest book, Foil, Saber and Epee Fencing, was published by Penn State Press in May, 1994.

In 1989 Mac and Diana moved to Boynton Beach, Florida, where they currently live. Together they attended and assisted at many major fencing events in the United States and abroad.

Who’s Who in World Jewry, 1955.
Elected to the Helms Hall of Fame for Fencing, 1956.
Who’s Who of American Jewish Athletes, 1958.
Assistant U.S. Olympic Fencing Coach, Rome, Italy, 1960.
Fencing Coach of the Year, 1962 and 1965.
Service Award from the Athletic Institute 1969.
Director of the Academy for Fencing Teachers in Israel 1969-1970.
National Fencing Coach for the State of Israel 1969-1970.
Head Fencing Coach for Israel at World Championships, Ankara, Turkey, 1970.
U.S. Head Fencing Coach at World University Games, Torino, Italy, 1970.
U.S. Fencing Coach, Junior World Championships, South Bend, IN, 1971.
International Fencing Official, 9th Maccabiah Games in Israel 1973.
U.S. Fencing Coach and member of organizing committee for Andrei Spitzer Memorial (Under 19) Tournament in Israel, 1973.
Inducted into the City College of New York Athletic Hall of Fame, 1974.
U.S. Head Fencing Coach, Maccabiah Games in Israel, 1977 and 1981.
Member of U.S. Olympic Fencing Committee, 1982.
Member of the U.S. Fencing Association Board of Directors, 1982.
Manager of the U.S. National Sports Festival, Colorado Springs, CO, 1983.
Manager of the U.S. Fencing Team, Junior World Championships, Leningrad, Russia, 1984.
Founding member and three times President of the U.S. Fencing Coaches Association, 1950-1952, 1962-1963, and 1982-1984.
Former Editor of the U.S. Fencing Coaches Association Swordmaster magazine.
Internationally ranked fencing official at major national tournaments, circuit events, and Pennsylvania, Georgia, and Florida State Games.
As Emeritus Fencing Master, examined candidates for accreditation as Fencing Instructors, Prevosts, and Masters.
Chairman of U.S. Fencing Association Veteran Age Fencing Program,1982 – 1997.
Commissioner for Fencing, Florida Sunshine State Games, West Palm Beach, 1992.
Co-Chair Organizing Committee, U.S. National Championships, Ft Myers, FL, 1993.
Organizer and Chief of Mission, International Senior Age Tournament, England, 1994.
Advisor to the Florida International University Fencing Club, 1995-1997.
Hosted International Veteran Age Competition at St. Petersburg Beach, FL, 1995.
Chef de Mission for the U.S. Veteran Age Team, Kassel, Germany, 1996.
Organizing Committee, World Masters Games and Acting Captain, U.S. Veteran Age Team vs. Germany, Oregon,1998.
Outstanding Achievement Award from USFCA, July 1998.